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Modern Dating

How to navigate dating with intention, confidence, and self-compassion.

Relationships
Is This Really Love?

Leah Aguirre LCSW on June 13, 2024

Seemingly harmless actions like jealousy, criticism, and jokes turn abusive when used to control and demean a partner.

Seemingly harmless actions like jealousy, criticism, and jokes turn abusive when used to control and demean a partner.

People-Pleasing
Sometimes We Disappoint Others. Here's Why That's OK.

Leah Aguirre LCSW on November 17, 2023

Are you a people pleaser? Do you find yourself worrying about disappointing others? Here is why it is normal and OK to disappoint others and how to cope with this reality.

Are you a people pleaser? Do you find yourself worrying about disappointing others? Here is why it is normal and OK to disappoint others and how to cope with this reality.

Relationships
The Power of the Block Button

Leah Aguirre LCSW on October 20, 2023

Continuing to engage with your ex’s social media can make it difficult to move on. Blocking or unfollowing them could help make things easier.

Continuing to engage with your ex’s social media can make it difficult to move on. Blocking or unfollowing them could help make things easier.

Fantasies
6 Signs of Being Stuck in a Fantasy of a Relationship

Leah Aguirre LCSW on September 8, 2023

Do you focus on your partner’s potential or a fantasy version of your relationship? Here are signs to look for and why focusing on this fantasy version can keep you stuck.

Do you focus on your partner’s potential or a fantasy version of your relationship? Here are signs to look for and why focusing on this fantasy version can keep you stuck.

Mating
4 Things to Add to Your Dating "List"

Leah Aguirre LCSW on September 1, 2023

Dating today is hard. It can be difficult to slow down and stay true to who you are and what you want. Here's what to add to your “list” to help you date with more intention.

Dating today is hard. It can be difficult to slow down and stay true to who you are and what you want. Here's what to add to your “list” to help you date with more intention.

Loneliness
The Rise of Empowered, Single Women

Leah Aguirre LCSW on August 17, 2022

With less at stake, women are raising the bar and expect more from men than they may have in the past. Here's why.

With less at stake, women are raising the bar and expect more from men than they may have in the past. Here's why.

Forgiveness
Unlearning Blame-Taking

Leah Aguirre LCSW on June 14, 2022

Do you tend to take blame for the abuse or mistreatment of a partner or friend? This is a learned behavior that can be unlearned.

Do you tend to take blame for the abuse or mistreatment of a partner or friend? This is a learned behavior that can be unlearned.

Relationships
Sitting With Uncertainty

Leah Aguirre LCSW on April 7, 2022

Do you struggle with vulnerability? Do you avoid intimacy or self-sabotage to dodge heartache? Here are ways you can learn how to sit with uncertainty.

Do you struggle with vulnerability? Do you avoid intimacy or self-sabotage to dodge heartache? Here are ways you can learn how to sit with uncertainty.

Polyamory
Demystifying Polyamory

Leah Aguirre LCSW on February 28, 2022

How familiar are you with polyamory? Could you possibly have implicit bias? Let’s discuss the limitations of mental health providers and challenge misconceptions about polyamory.

How familiar are you with polyamory? Could you possibly have implicit bias? Let’s discuss the limitations of mental health providers and challenge misconceptions about polyamory.

Anxiety
4 Tips to Help You Manage Your Texting Anxiety

Leah Aguirre LCSW on October 8, 2021

Is texting causing you anxiety? Are you always trying to read between the lines or decode a text message? Here are some pointers to help you take charge and feel better.

Is texting causing you anxiety? Are you always trying to read between the lines or decode a text message? Here are some pointers to help you take charge and feel better.

Loneliness
6 Ways to Cope with Feelings of Loneliness

Leah Aguirre LCSW on July 8, 2021

Single and lonely? That is 100 percent normal and 100 percent OK. Here are some tips to help you cope and work through the loneliness.

Single and lonely? That is 100 percent normal and 100 percent OK. Here are some tips to help you cope and work through the loneliness.

Trauma
5 Ways Trauma Could Impact Your Dating Life

Leah Aguirre LCSW on June 3, 2021

Is it difficult for you to trust others? Have you had a difficult time feeling connected and hopeful? Do you struggle with your self-esteem? Trauma could be a major factor.

Is it difficult for you to trust others? Have you had a difficult time feeling connected and hopeful? Do you struggle with your self-esteem? Trauma could be a major factor.