5 Common Fears About Growing Older

Fear of aging

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When you think about growing older, what comes to mind? For many, it is fear. Fear of losing everything you value. Fear of aging is associated with an increase in vulnerability to fraud (Shao, 2021), increased anxiety (Rittenour, 2016), and can be particularly difficult for women's body image and health as they grow older (Gupta, 1990).

Why is this? Usually, it is because we see life as purely physical. We are born, quickly grow and learn, and peak physically by the time we are in our 20s. Then we begin the slow physical decline for the rest of our lives. That is scary.

The most common fears about aging are:

• Losing independence. As we age, we may fear losing physical and cognitive abilities such as driving, bathing, managing finances, and cooking. This is a fear of losing control over our lives.
• Deteriorating health. As we age, we are more likely to experience chronic health conditions, such as heart disease, cancer, impairment from stroke, and Alzheimer's disease. Such conditions hold the threat of pain, disability, even death.
• Loneliness. Social networks may shrink as friends and family members die or move away. Resulting feelings of loneliness and isolation additionally pose a major health risk.
• Financial insecurity. Many people worry about not having enough money to live comfortably in retirement. The concern is valid, as the cost of living continues to rise, and Social Security benefits are rarely enough to fully cover the expenses of retirees.
• Death. Death is a natural part of life, but it is nevertheless a fear many people have. Some people may fear the pain and suffering that can come with dying, others may fear the unknown.

While these fears are common, they can be managed in the following ways:

1. Take care of your physical health: Stay active, eat healthy, and get regular medical checkups. Such efforts can help reduce the risk of developing chronic health conditions that can lead to impairment and early death.

2. Take care of your emotional health: Stay connected with friends and family. Engage in meaningful activities and plan for your financial future. Doing so can reduce stress and lead to emotional well-being, which minimizes fears associated with aging and makes growing older a more fulfilling experience.

If you are struggling with fears about aging, there are a few things you can do:

• Talk to your friends, family, or a therapist about your concerns.
• Get involved in activities that you enjoy and that connect you with others.
• Learn as much as you can about the challenges and opportunities that come with aging.
• Make a plan for your future, including your finances, health care, and housing.

It is also important to remember that you are not alone!